When the cheering stops
When the accolades end
When you can no longer tell who is foe and who is friend
When the radio goes silent
When the light go dim
When you do not know if you can trust her or trust him
When you are alone
When the fears set in
When you are no longer sure if you are going to win
When the voices fade
When the time runs out
When you are all you have to prove that you have the clout
When the money is low
When the phone calls stop
When you have to go hunger just to keep up the shop
When the pain is real
When the tears begin
When you have to decide between sanity and sin
When it is all on the line
When there is no other choice
Pet Peeve: Women wearing the wrong size/ill fitting bras
Like seriously I want to snatch them up and take them to a bra store and fix them. If you only knew how much better you would look if you wore bras that FIT.
SOOOOO MUCH BETTER
It especially makes me sad when I see a beautiful Plus Size woman, who doesn't look her absolute best , simply because she is wearing the wrong size bra.
Spilling out of your cup is cute for porn and sexy shots to get people to oogle you, but is not how classy ladies do it in the city. Back rolls and shoulder dips are not only unsightly but they also can mess up your posture and the shape of your back and body.
Take some time and figure out what size you should be wearing. Invest in good bras.
I ask that you come
Not with mind made up
Not with bias and judgement
Not ready for war
But that you come open
Ready to take things as they are
And not how you have built them to be
If there is bias, let it pass
If there is dislike, let it wane
If there is a reason to be rude or unjust
Try to fight for positivity and honesty
If you assume someone will hurt you
You will just look for ways for them to do so
And in the end no one will have won.
I ask that you try
Not for me, not for you
But because it is the right thing to do
"I'll wait" she said "I'll be patient for you, and when you are ready to chose I'll be here, waiting to fulfill your need To take my place as your supporter, cheerleader and lover I'll be here ready to understand you, Care for you Love you ....just as you are" These words she said to him because she was ready to take the leap Ready to jump in because of lessons From missed opportunities From unfulfilled promise To him they might have been just words But she felt them, Deep Honest and True She showed him her spirit And he held back, He held the door ajar but not open He muddied the path with confusion and aloofness So before he was ready to decide to let her in She was gone
"I'll be patient" he said "I'll wait for you, and when you are ready I'll be here waiting for you take this gift of love To take your place at my right hand Ill be here willing to support you Understand you Love you .....love you just as you are" These words he said to me as I giggled them off as I let them slip into the confines of my mind Let it pass over me, as foolish talk of a potential lover They were just words Until he showed me ....showed me just what love was More than lip service This man was honor and justice and truth He was meaning and understanding The very essence that I have spoken of so many times before And just as I was ready to open the door He was gone.
This story (linked above) made me think of so many things.
When I was bigger, I remember flight attendants giving me funny looks
sometimes when I boarded airplanes, or being extra loud when asking me if i needed
a seat belt extender. They weren't all like that. Some would discreetly hand me seat belt extenders before I asked for them. Like they were handing me some forbidden object that was secret and vile all at the same time. There were some who felt that my comfort was just as important as everyone else on the plane. But those were few and far between. What most of them saw was a potential issues. And I suppose that is their job. They have to be aware of whats going on on the plane so they can prepare. But I dont think many people enjoy being looked at like an "issue".
I remember people being asked to be moved because
they thought they would be cramped sitting next to me. The alarmed looks of people as i moved down the isle towards their row. I could almost hear them praying pleading in their mind "Please dont let her seat be next to me. Trust me Mr. Business Man, I dont want to be squished next to you either. I want my personal space. I dont want to go home smelling like your cologne, but we dont have much choice so why not be a dear and not hog the arm rest.
About those arm rests, as a girl with hips I have built in places to rest my arms. And those arm rests get in the way. Its much more comfy for me to have them up. Well the one on the right side anyway. I like to sit on the left side of the plane, not sure why but its a preference. And I like the window. Because when I get on a plane I dont move. I buckle up and im there until we land. Nothing worse than someone in a window seat who has a love affair with going to the bathroom. But I digress.
I remember the
looks of precocious children, who apparently had never seen a fat black
woman before. Being stared at like you are an animal, some specimen to
be examined and critiqued is not always fun. I remember.
wave the fat flag. I dont see any merit in being unhealthy and large. I
do support confidence and self assurance tho. Not every fat person is unhealthy, not every thin person is fit. So its a balance. Its an issue. Its something we need to not avoid, but...no one ever wants to talk about it.
So recently the theme of humility has been on my mind. And as it happens I have been noticing the theme play out around me. Seeing evidence of its value in my online dealings and in the physical world. Humility is a wonderful trait that some people have not yet mastered.
I think sometimes it get confused for meekness, or shyness, or not knowing how to stand up for one's self. But humility is really just you putting others before yourself. And not the kind of selflessness that is self serving, but the kind that knows where your efforts are best put to use.
The sermon in church today along with tings Ive just noticed int he world around me reminded me that more people need to be humble, so much could come of us thinking of others for just a bit more of the time